“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” — Proverbs 18:22
I was a young man in a serious relationship, having a marriage discussion with my parents. They gave me the most excellent marriage advice I’ve ever heard in my life. I still use it and apply it to this day. They told me to apply the same energy and effort I gave to basketball, writing, games, work, or whatever it is I do with great enthusiasm, into my marriage, and making my wife happy.
Life Makes Romantic Gestures Complicated
It sounds so simple, but as we all know, once life starts happening with work and kids, that is a practice that becomes much harder to live out each day practically. Even the simple act of saying ‘I love you’ or reminding her that she’s beautiful, can become something that falls on the back burner. All those things you used to do and say seem to decrease and sometimes disappear slowly. It’s not that you’re actively trying not to be as romantic as you were when you started dating, but sometimes, between checking each other out making googly eyes and saying ” I do,” it just started getting more complicated.
The scripture tells us that he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. But how do we practically live that out? As men, we tend to take care of other things we deem right. Whether it be electronics, cars or making sure we are wearing our lucky shirt or socks when watching the big game, we tend to put more effort and energy in our hobbies or things that are infinitely less important.
Scheduling Romantic Gestures
So what I started to do, and it seems dopey, but I started leaving my wife Romantic Wake Up Calls. It began as something simple, and I stole the idea, of course, from hotels. I thought it would be unique to offer my wife cute romantic notes for her in the morning. She loved the idea, and I’ve been doing it for about 4 or 5 years now. It’s not something I do every day, but you get the idea. I try to make an effort to handwrite them, but sometimes you can send even a text or an email at her work, that she’ll get in the morning. It’s just little things like that which seem to go a long way.
I also put a reminder in my phone each day to compliment my wife. Which also seems excessive, but I have a problem where I think of compliments, but never say them out loud. These aren’t hard and fast rules, but these are just examples of little things you can do only to show your wife she’s appreciated and that you’re putting effort into the relationship.
I think God blesses our marriage, families, and home when we honor and appreciate our wives. I would encourage you to set aside some time to speak with her on things you do that make her feel appreciated. Ask her what some things she would like to see you do more on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis are. Even just being willing to have the conversation, open yourself up, and listen to her, could go a long way. We should all make sure that our wives feel like she is that good thing in your life.
Article written by Thomas Way