Imperfect parents can still teach Godly truths. Father’s Day is a time to celebrate what our fathers mean to us. But not everyone had the kind of close relationship with their fathers they would have liked. For some, the day can trigger painful emotions and memories. Our earthly fathers are human. They are flawed. They can let us down, disappoint us, or even abandon or abuse us.
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How to impact your kids; it starts by recognizing something. My main job is being a husband and a father. I have a paying job to support that effort. In that job, I drive a lot. I run up some significant windshield time. In a way, it can be an opportunity for the enemy to work on me. But it can be a tremendous blessing. I have drive time every week to turn me back into a father and a husband. I know a lot of men who struggle with bringing work home. Some struggle with that transition, and it can have a negative impact on your home.
Daddy, can you play dinosaurs with me? My oldest son asks me as I’m running out the door for my first appointment of the day. His big blue eyes shine with hope as he anticipates me sitting down and grabbing the triceratops. I’m sorry buddy, daddy has to go to work but we will play when I get home. My heart aches as I close the door of my car, feeling like I let my little boy down.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6
I read an article once that was titled “How To Be a Better Father,” which, of course, I felt I needed to read. It started at ten and worked its way down to the number one way to be a better dad. That number one reason was to be present.
How can I have confidence in fatherhood when I wasn’t taught how to be one? It’s something I used to ponder on as I transitioned into Fatherhood. I grew up without an active father in my life. I can think of so many things I felt I should have learned from my father but instead learned from peers or even the internet.
For example, I learned to tie a tie, change a tire, and even shave from youtube. Not that anything is wrong with self-learning, but the confirmation and encouragement can’t be accomplished on an internet app.
Our son experienced substantial emotional fall-out during the end of his baseball game last night. He’s a sensitive child as it is, but when things are starting to turn bad, they can spiral so quickly. As a father, it’s my job to try and pick up the pieces and encourage him to get back on his feet. Easier said than done most of the time.