How to work on your marriage… “You Get Out What You Put In” just needed a little pizzaz, so we made up a word – YGOWUPI. I’ve seen women spend hundreds of dollars on a shopping spree and jump up and down, trying to get their husband’s attention. The man doesn’t even look up from the newspaper or the newscast long enough to squeeze out the words, “yeah, looks fine.”
2 Corinthians 9:6 — “The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.”
Where Marriages Go Wrong
I’ve seen women hear how other men speak to their wives with affection and turn to their husbands and say, “you never say those things to me!”
I’ve seen men ignore their wives completely until it’s dinner time. Even worse, the wife will have to watch their husband leave his dinner plate on the living room floor where he ate in front of the TV. As you can see, husbands, we have work to do in the area of being the man God has called us to be.
Is it because we’ve fallen out of love with our wives? Even if you have the emotional range of a rock, I doubt you’ve fallen out of love with your wife. Is marriage boring to you? Possibly…how exciting are you to be around all the time? Is it because you no longer have things in common? You had to have had some when you started dating. So what happened? You’ve started taking your wife for granted.
How To Work on Your Marriage
You thought after she said “I Do,” your job was over with pursuing your wife. You may think it’s okay for you to roll in after work and park yourself in the den until you yell about dinner, but it’s not. It’s not by far, and you are now getting what you have put into your marriage.
Think of this from your job point of view. If you were on your A-Game at all the interviews, and then once you were hired, you started to mail it in, what would happen? How long do you think you would last before your boss brought you in for a heart-to-heart talk about your performance?
I think we all believe we are doing better than we are in some areas of our lives.
- I’m not in that bad a shape…for a guy my age.
- I have plenty of friends…Facebook tells me so.
- I may not read my Bible every day, but I think I read it more than others.
- Family-time is done when it matters.
- My marriage is fine. We get along…most of the time.
I bet the answers would be a little different if we asked them with another perspective.
- What kind of shape should I be in?
- Do you have friends that you can spend time with when you need them?
- Do you read God’s word to find out what He wants for your life?
- Are you saying there is time with family that doesn’t matter?
- How would your wife describe your marriage?
God’s Bar for Marriage
As you can see, the bar has been set low, and it’s been set low by us. But God has set the bar much higher, and you need to spend time in His word and in prayer to learn what you should be doing. You and I have been called to more than just getting by when it comes to being the husband your wife deserves.
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