Proverbs 18:22 — “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.”
The divorce rate used to be something that people referred to as a stat of the success or lack thereof when it comes to the institution of marriage. I say “used to” because that number is a little less trustworthy these days. Not because great marriages have skyrocketed in number in today’s culture, but because fewer people are getting married in the first place.
Falling Short of Biblical Marriage
People are just living together, and when they break up, that statistic doesn’t show up in the percentage of broken marriages. I’m here to draw a line in the sand gentlemen and let you know your Free Trial is about to expire and it’s about time it did.
God defined marriage as a union between a man and a woman for many benefits. I can’t find anywhere in the Bible where it says to live together in place of marriage to see if you are compatible with each other.
From a Biblical standpoint, let’s start with the fact that the Bible says, you’re living in sin (Hebrews 13:4 — Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous).
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From an earthly standpoint, you living together communicates all sorts of things. It says…
- You don’t know if your partner is worth committing to for the rest of your life
- You’d like to keep your options open in case something else comes along
- You may have commitment issues
- You may have come from a broken home and have trust issues in the whole marriage concept
- You don’t put a value on “the document” that says you are married to each other
- You’ve seen what marriages do to other people, and they look miserable
- You feel no one gets married anymore
As you can see, there are quite a few reasons people don’t get married anymore, and there is probably another dozen that isn’t on this list.
Don’t Take The Easy Way
The strange thing is the list from an earthly standpoint raises some valid points. I’m here to say there are still some great marriages out there that are built on God’s foundation of what a marriage is. There are still people out there that spend time working on their marriages with studies, prayer, and excellent communication.
Don’t take the “easy” way out and live with the person you are supposed to love. Commit to saying that no matter what comes up, you want to spend the rest of your lives together. You are in this for the long haul, and you want to please God with your choice for marriage.
If you are a Christian, the Holy Spirit should be tap dancing on your heart to stop living in sin and marry that person you love so much.
If you are not a Christian, I would suggest revisiting the Word of God to find out what God says about marriage and why He means it. Base your choice of marriage on what God says and not what other people are doing.