Lately, God has given me a desire to add real value to other people. Worrying about my needs all the time has caused me to feel depressed, anxious, and angry. So although I still care about myself and even desire to make sure I stay healthy and productive, I am trying to be less self-centered. I want to be more others-centered. Because when I am others-centered, I feel peace, joy, and happiness.
And please know that I am not trying to be a “do-gooder.” I am not trying to do not do good works to receive appreciation. I want to do good works for others to help people and most importantly honor God. Real peace comes from putting the focus away from ourselves and onto God. God gave us life and expects us to honor Him with the life he gave us. We praise Him by letting go of selfish desires and instead spread His love.
As long as we are helping others for the glory of God, we can rest assured He will be glorified. Let’s look at what you need to do first to be more others-centered.
What you want to do first is to focus on the needs of others. Put yourself in their shoes. What problem do they need help with at this time in their life? Then help them solve that problem. Here are ways you can add real value to other people.
Get to know people. What do people enjoy doing? What are people’s weaknesses that may be your strength? By spending time with those people, you will build trust which will allow people to share their hearts with you. When people share, their hearts open new doors. Now you can see what people’s dream are. You can see what people’s weaknesses are. You can see who they are and what they need. Maybe you start by helping them with small things. It does not matter how you assist them. It just matters that you genuinely care about that person and that you want to make a difference in that person’s life.
Be committed to solving the problem if you want to provide real help to people than stay devoted to the problem until it fixed. Do not leave when things get hard. Stay until the issue is resolved. As the saying goes, when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Be tough and help others even when it is not easy.
Be available. Let the person know you care. Let them know you are open to speaking when they need someone to talk. Let them know you will do your best to help in any way you know how. You can let people know you care by showing interest in others and by offering assistance when you learn of something that needs resolving.
Always be working hard and still be willing to lend a helping hand. When you are always doing something and being on the lookout for those in need, people will see that you are a hard worker and that you care. So work hard, smile, and let the world know you are there to serve others.
You do not have to be perfect to help other people. People want to see that you care. They know you have flaws and they have flaws. People want to be loved. And a great way to love others is to serve them.
Don’t expect anything in return. If you are only giving to get, you are not generous or selfless. You might as well just be entitled and selfish. Instead, give to others and expect nothing in return. If you get something back, that is great. You are blessed. If you get some appreciation back, that is indeed rewarding, but again the purpose of giving is to turn the focus away from ourselves.
Mathew 5:42 — “Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.”
Great points brother. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I felt like I was speaking to myself as I read your letter. Glory be to God!
I love it! It’s such a contradiction to the ways of this world but the act of selflessness changes things. Great read!!
This is a great reminder and that when we give as Jesus gave for us, we’re more like Him. This really spoke to me today.
A stark reminder of this happened yesterday. I got a call from my son (11) saying he was going to stick with a friend of his was being threatened at school. With all that’s going on with school shootings, bullying and so on, it scared his Mom and I. He said his friend was being threatened to be beaten up for his phone, at lunch and on the school bus home, so my son came off the bus at his friend’s stop (about 1/2 mile from his), stuck with his friend to make sure the bully would not bother or attempt to attack his friend. The bus driver, realizing what was going down, came off the bus also, ad the bully ran off. Point is, without regard of his own safety (which could have played out differently), my son acted selflessly to ensure his friend would not be in any trouble. He asked me if he is too kind-hearted, I told him it’s ok to be that, as it’s what Christ desires of us. Please lift all our children to the Lord in fervent prayer, as they are the ones they enemy targets daily. Be blessed!
Neil, I sent you an email today, please get back with me.
This story is a constant reminder of the love we should have for each other just like God has for us. We need to continue to seek his face. This is one area where God is still working on me and my family. To the brother who’s son showed selflessness, we know God will continue to watch over him and all of our children. I hope this story touches all who read it.
I love how you said that when you are self centered, you feel angry, anxious and less happy and when you help others that you feel more, love, peace and joy..
You are so right…
We honor God by Spreading his LOVE and the way we do that is by helping others. Since the world isn’t quick to do this because of it’s self centered nature, people are either surprised or wonder, why is this person so kind when we are selfless and help them.
Serving and helping others is our opportunity as believers to demonstrate Christs Love for us… so being selfless isn’t a sign of weakness, it is truly one of the Highest forms of Praise and thanksgiving we can do for the one who saved us… and helping people, even if it’s in just a small way, even though it can never compare to what Christ did for us can definitely make an impact in his name.
Enjoyed your Article very Much! =) Be Bold and Be Blessed!