How to be a faithful husband can be found clearly in our theme verse for this article. Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Missing In Action – “used to say that a soldier cannot be found after a battle and might have been killed, captured, or wounded.”
Man In Action – A man that is active in his family’s life in all areas that are needed. Men, don’t be hard to find!
Men, where are you on the battlefield? Are you active and accounted for in your marriage, or are you missing in action? Don’t think your marriage is a battlefield? There are landmines all around you and her. There is an enemy that is trying to distract you, trying to frustrate you and many times tries to pull you apart. Still don’t think so? See if these sound familiar…
- Sex (oops….how did that get on there twice)
- Sex (hey…there it is again)
We are going to assume it didn’t start off this way. It probably started off with a glance across the room or being introduced to her by a friend. Maybe it was a high school sweetheart or even an online match. However it started, there was a time when you pursued her with fever and zeal. Your heart beat faster when she was around you, and when she wasn’t, your mind couldn’t focus on anything but her. You’d dress up when you knew you were going to see her and may have even gone out of your way to see her. Those days may seem like a long time ago for some of us. I have news for you…your woman still wants you to feel the same way toward her. The chase should never end with a date, engagement or marriage.
What message do you send to your wife when you no longer try? You know all that time she spends putting makeup on or trying to pick out the right shirt or fingernail polish before date night? That’s so you can notice her. Don’t think so? Does your wife ask you how she looks? She wants to know you are still chasing her and she needs to know it’s with fever and zeal and not just a passive noncommittal response. You need to be a faithful husband.
I’ve heard men say all kinds of stupid things; a few didn’t come from me. I think these examples are where TV husbands come from. Here are a couple that had me shaking my head:
- I told you I loved you when we got married; if something changes, I’ll let you know.
- You look like you’ve put on a little weight.
- I like the way your friend does her hair.
- Here’s some money. Go buy yourself something for your birthday.
- We haven’t had sex in a while!
- What, are you stupid?
- I’m tired of hearing your constant nagging.
- I hang out with the guys because I need some “ME” time.
If you are saying these kinds of things to your wife, then a battlefield is just what your marriage is. But men, we can do better than that! You can be a faithful husband.
About the author: Tj is the CEO of Studio490 Creative Services and Uncommen.
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