Our son experienced substantial emotional fall-out during the end of his baseball game last night. He’s a sensitive child as it is, but when things are starting to turn bad, they can spiral so quickly. As a father, it’s my job to try and pick up the pieces and encourage him to get back on his feet. Easier said than done most of the time.
1 Kings 3:9 – “Give your servant therefore an understanding mind to govern your people, that I may discern between good and evil, for who is able to govern this your great people?”
Adversity tends to shed light on a real character. I was reading this morning in my Charles Spurgeon devotional Matthew 26:56, “But all this has taken place that the Scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled. Then all the disciples left him and fled.” As Jesus is being arrested, His disciples ran away after some said they would fight to the end. They left Him on His own out of fear for their own lives.
The Weight Your Responsibilities as a Father
As a father, husband, shepherd of the family, leader of the household, it would be so easy to check out, move on, and distance myself from the responsibilities of the role and life God has called me to. I can identify with those dads that do. I’m not condoning that behavior at all; just saying I can see where the weight of a father’s and husband’s responsibilities outweigh the perseverance of the man. I believe it’s forgotten that God never promises not to give you too much to handle. I think He allows too much adversity in our lives to draw us nearer to Him and continue to help us understand our dependence on Him. Yes, I wish at times God would allow a break in the times when I want the break, but it’s not my will but Thy will.
Paul prayed for his thorn to be removed, yet God reminded him that His grace was sufficient. God sent an angel to strengthen Jesus when He most needed it. God kept David safe in the wilderness while he was running from Saul. I think Jesus knew the things the disciples would face, and I believe that’s why He told them to pray so that they wouldn’t fall into temptation.
You Need Help So Ask For It
The world wants to pull us, husbands and fathers, into temptation and away from leading our families when things get tough. Even when they aren’t many fierce temptations out there, I believe it’s what Satan wants. Take down the head of the family, and the family will fall along with it.
I also have a daughter. I read a book a few years ago, and it wrote about how, as dads, we model for our daughters the kind of husband our daughters will marry.
Often, I pray what Solomon asked of God, “So give your servant an understanding heart to judge Your people to discern between good and evil. For who can judge these great people of Yours?” In his humility, Solomon was aware of the task at hand in leading Israel after his father David passed away. He knew he needed help, so he asked for it.
As husbands and fathers, we can’t shepherd our families on our own. We need an understanding or hearing heart; one that is in tune with God. We also need to be strengthened by God. If God sent an angel to strengthen His Son in His darkest hour, would he not do that for us?
Husbands and fathers, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
For more reading materials on handling your responsibilities as a Father, see below:
- What Makes a UNCOMMEN Father
- Learning from Experience | Fatherly Wisdom
- Fathering Your Children With the Model of Christ
- 3 Ways to Practice Biblical Fatherhood