What makes an UNCOMMEN Father?
Deuteronomy 4:9 — “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children.”
I had to ask myself what that meant? How is it defined? How is it played out in real life?
So, I decided to sit down and ask my six children. I have three biological and three step-children, ranging from 31 years old to 5 years old. I sat down and asked them all individually and then in a group; please say what you think a UNCOMMEN father is!
This following is a synopsis of their answers.
An Uncommen father is:
- A man who taught me I can do anything in the entire world.
- A man that taught me that I am just as strong as he is.
- A man that picks me up when I am broken.
- A man that teaches me every day to be humble.
- A man that taught me what I should look for in a man.
- A man that taught me how to keep my family close.
- A man that shows me what the real definition of family is.
- A man that taught me just how important morals are.
- A man that continually proves that the work involved in being “dad,” doesn’t have to be a job.
- A man that believes in me even when I can’t.
- A man who offers non-judgmental, unconditional, love-filled hugs, and “dad talks.
- A man that we all could be proud to have as a father.
Our Only Hope
I would say that pretty much sums it up as to what an Uncommen father should exemplify. I’m not the perfect, UNCOMMEN father, and neither are you. There’s only been one perfect person in history. There was this one guy, a couple of thousand years ago: Jesus Christ.
But for you and me, nope, no way are we perfect or could we ever be anything but human.
After sitting and listening to my children define what a UNCOMMEN father was and to hear them say I exemplified those things, it was humbling. I made me think, “maybe I’m doing something right.” It showed me that I had planted seeds that have borne fruit and that my children were part of my successful harvest.
For more reading materials on being an UNCOMMEN Father, see below:
- Fathering like the Father
- Learning from Experience | Fatherly Wisdom
- Fathing Your Children With the Model of Christ