How to Grow With Your Spouse

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Galatians 6:10 ~ So then, as we have the opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.

Hey guys, if you’re anything like me, you wish you were a mind-reader and could “get” my wife. Even more, I wish I could not get in trouble for asking her whatever mysterious thing she was thinking. But, unfortunately, I’m not a mind-reader! So to help us out, this month, the Ladies will be coaching us on some good tips on how to serve our significant other more successfully.

With a husband of 21 years and three teenage boys, I’ve logged a ton of time at practices and games.

My kids have played tee-ball, basketball, hockey, swimming, skateboarding, football, lacrosse, and soccer. It’s been a lot for this girly girl to keep up with, and I’m not a great sports mom/sports wife – I don’t understand or, frankly, like any of it.

No matter how much I love my athletic husband and boys, two things are abundantly clear at this point:

  1. Basketball is my favorite – and that’s just because it’s climate-controlled.
  2. I will never in a million years understand offsides.

Regarding my football-loving husband, I can’t truthfully say that I want him to try to explain the details of the game to me. But, on the other hand, I do want to show interest in the things he likes.

While I can’t get into the games themselves, I’m ridiculously interested in the teams’ and players’ backstories. I recently discovered documentaries and biopics on ESPN. They sport reality shows without the crying and backstabbing of The Bachelor or Real Housewives of Anywhere. OK, so there’s a little crying (that poor kicker in The Four Falls of Buffalo!!!!).

From behind-the-scenes looks into training for the combine (yep, I know what that is now!) to rookies and their families gathering around the television on Draft Day, these shows make me care about the players and their teams, which in turn makes me like watching the games with my husband. Who knew?!

Whether we’re involved in each other’s interests or not, my husband and I prioritize giving each other the freedom to pursue those individual interests. That means we don’t make each other feel guilty about spending time and a reasonable amount of money on them. Instead, we balance the attention we give our hobbies with the attention we give each other.

When God is at the center of a marriage, it allows for growth in our marriage. Of course, it’s essential to have time together and time apart, but it’s even better when we can do things with each other. Men, it may mean you spend some time watching a movie or standing in line at a salon. Ladies, it may mean you watch football or time at a car show. It doesn’t matter what it is, but spending time together is so important. We have a motto in our family – “Wherever Together.”

So ladies, brush up on your Tampa Two coverage and time-out strategies. Men, get ready to see all the rainbow colors while shopping for Autumn Leaves Eyeliner. The bottom line is you are doing life together.

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Author: Deb Mitchell


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