Cheer men on. A few weekends ago, I spent some time thinking about my dad. I thought of our times growing up in a small town in Virginia; the moments of fishing and hunting with him. We spent time in the woods exploring and discovering all the old farms and mountains in that area. I also spent some time reflecting on his life as a man. A young father figuring out life much like I am now with a young family.
Trying to pay bills, love his wife and children the best he knew how. I also thought about how he spent time with his friends. His friends were all from different walks of life. Some were business owners, some worked for the government, but most of them were blue collar guys walking out similar steps in life.
Then my thoughts went to my friends: the people who are my age, creating a similar life that my dad did so they can pay the bills, stay passionate and alive for our families, and walk closely with God.
These days, I think there are a lot of opportunities for men to see other men as a threat; as competition for this small amount of blessing out there. Fighting for stability, impact in the Kingdom, and many other contexts. You name it, and I think guys have some hard wiring that pits them against each other. Some of it I think goes back to the fall and Cain and Able. Brothers were fighting over a Father’s blessing. Look at Jacob and Esau, Joseph and his brothers, heck, even the disciples fighting over who is going to be the greatest in the Kingdom.
But, what if as men, we had the opportunity to change that? What if we believed there was more than enough to go around? What if we were each other’s champions? Cheerleaders. As men, I think we already have enough going on in our lives without making it harder for ourselves. What if we cheered on other men because, in fact, that’s what we need as men the most: Other men believing in us, believing that what we have to give this world is unique and irreplaceable.
These men deserve to be cheered on; they deserve to know that someone has their back just like I deserve that. And again, what if we can change that spirit of Cain and Able, that sense of disdain to a spirit of humility and faith that there is enough of the Father’s blessing to go around?
About the Author: Cory Smith is the Executive Director of Training Ground. A non-profit leadership training program for young men in Colorado Springs.