Colossians 3:14: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
I heard a story of a pastor who boarded an airplane and was sitting behind a young married couple. During the flight, they purchased a movie to watch together. But they wanted to watch it on their own tv’s that was in the headrest in front of them. So they both started the same movie at the exact same time and about 30 minutes into the movie they had to pause for one of them to go to the restroom. They paused the film for him to visit the bathroom. After returning, for the next 15 minutes, they tried to pause and start and countdown so that they could watch the movie in-sync once again.
The pastor saw the young couple at the luggage pickup and approached them both. He said he that loved watching them try to get the movies in sync because that was going to be a picture of marriage.
On the day of your wedding, you both said “I do,” and from then on out, you and your spouse should be trying to be in sync with each other. Both of you grow at different speeds, have successes while the other fails, is strong where the other is weak. But to know this and strive to be in sync with each other is what our picture verse tells us. Colossians 3:14 ends with the words, “in perfect unity.” If you’ve been married for a while, you know that it takes work to get to perfect unity. It takes prayer, sacrifice, love, flexibility, listening, encouragement and excellent communication.
Is your movie in sync with your wife’s movie? I know you are thinking, I hit play on Rocky / Star Wars / The GodFather and she hit resume on The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants / Steel Magnolia / The Notebook. How and the world is that supposed to be in sync with each other? I hate to tell you; they are not. If you remember in the story above, the young couple picked a movie to watch together. They didn’t each choose a different film. They agreed upon one movie to watch together.
You are going to have to agree upon a movie / a direction in which God wants you and your spouse to move together. That means you are going to have to give a little and she is going to have to give a little to get on the same page with each other. Where I would start is with prayer and reading God’s Word together. Do a marriage study to put you and your wife on the same page. When you and your spouse are centered in God’s Will, perfect unity starts to become the norm rather than the seldom.
The last part of the lesson that stood out to me was that someone is watching you and your spouse do life together. You children, family, friends, and others may be looking at both of you and saying, “what is God doing in their marriage?” We are called to be a reflection of God in all areas of our lives. So make a date with your spouse, pop some popcorn and hit play!
About the Author: Tj Todd is the President of Studio490 Creative Services and Uncommen.