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Dealing With Secret Sins That Haunt Us

Dealing With Secret Sins That Haunt Us

Matt Lauer, Harvey Weinstein, Al Franken, Roy Moore all recently been caught in a series of allegations of sexual harassment and the list continues to grow. Many of these men have been fixtures in the political or media scene for many years. Lauer has been a versatile host for NBC covering everything for the Today Show to the Olympics. Weinstein, a well-known film producer, and film executive. Franken and Moore, both longtime politicians. But all share this common thread of “inappropriate sexual behavior.”

While we see the media quickly make this into a political stone-throwing contest, what should our response be as UNCOMMEN men? Recognize that you have secret sin as well. There are a few things to be reminded of based on Biblical principles:

Dealing With Sins That Haunt Us

Jesus said, “Whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops” (Luke 12:3). This warning directly from the mouth of Jesus is a reminder to all of us men. We need to remind ourselves that secrets never stay secret. What’s done in private will eventually be seen by all. Either publicly in this life or on judgment day. It’s better to confess it now and be forgiven by God than be caught later.

Don’t Think You are Above Temptation

There is something about our culture that loves to see powerful men fall into disgrace. It’s easy to shake our heads in disbelief and say to ourselves or others “I would never do that.” Without Christ being at the center of our hearts and minds, we are all prone to fall into temptation every moment of every day. Living a life above board and with accountability is essential. One glance at an inappropriate website when no one is around. Finding our eyes wandering at the gym. Taking money from a business deal when you know you won’t be caught. A mature man is the one who knows that he is not strong enough to resist temptation in isolation. No one is above temptation.

Character and Reputation Can Be Ruined in A Moment

Benjamin Franklin said, “It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it.” We spend a lifetime developing a reputation. I don’t think there’s anything I try to protect more than my reputation. When my reputation is compromised—a hidden sin made public, a mistake made in business, I often find myself attacking the credibility of its critic and find something wrong with the source. I strongly defend myself. I live in a small city and work with small business owners. Word of mouth travels fast. Your reputation and character can significantly impact how you are able to exist in business and in life. We should all be reminded that no one cares about all the right things Matt Lauer or OJ Simpson did. He will be remembered for their indiscretions and their fall from greatness in an instant.

Bible Verse: “Nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light” (Luke 8:17). 

About the Author: Sam Casey is the Managing Partner at Banyan Creative, based in Matthews NC.

 

4 Comments

  1. Carl Hultgren

    Great words of wisdom. So true those verses. That’s how I was “found out” my cheating my porn etc etc. now having come to Jesus I strive to live above board and a life WORTHY of the calling I have received and it is true: satan wants nothing more than to knock a redeemed sinner off their high horse. So stand firm in your faith gentlemen, be strong and courageous, and live in the greatest freedom imaginable: a slave to Christ??????

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  2. Ric Phillips

    Confess, confess, and confess till all is right. Seek first the kingdom. That is true freedom.

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  3. Kristopher Fisher

    Great article! Another great verse of scripture to go along with this could be Numbers 32:23b, ” be assured that your sins will find you out.”

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  4. Woodbridge, VA

    This is an email I will share with my sons. THIS is an email I will not delete and keep in my email folder to refer to and remind myself. My FAVORITE BIBLE CHARACTER is Solomon and like him my weakness is the LOVE of women. How they look, dress, walk, talk, young or old. I have FOUGHT and FOUGHT with all my soul at steak and I am at a point that I can call the COMFORTER and my ASSIGNED ANGEL to interceede for me when I am week when my eyes wander, when urges work themselves up. It is a constant battle and fight and this day and age of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT that they can consent and change their minds without time limits makes this a VERY VERY SCARY WORLD.

    My brothers we have to be smarter and we have to use the COMFORTER to bring us the peace we need and the satisfaction we can’t find on the internet , job, street corner, bottle, drugs whatever the vice. Our assigned ANGEL hears our prayer and takes them to Jesus and our Father in heaven ALL THINGS are POSSIBLE.

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