Matt Lauer, Harvey Weinstein, Al Franken, Roy Moore all recently been caught in a series of allegations of sexual harassment and the list continues to grow. Many of these men have been fixtures in the political or media scene for many years. Lauer has been a versatile host for NBC covering everything for the Today Show to the Olympics. Weinstein, a well-known film producer, and film executive. Franken and Moore, both longtime politicians. But all share this common thread of “inappropriate sexual behavior.”
While we see the media quickly make this into a political stone-throwing contest, what should our response be as UNCOMMEN men? Recognize that you have secret sin as well. There are a few things to be reminded of based on Biblical principles:
Dealing With Sins That Haunt Us
Jesus said, “Whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops” (Luke 12:3). This warning directly from the mouth of Jesus is a reminder to all of us men. We need to remind ourselves that secrets never stay secret. What’s done in private will eventually be seen by all. Either publicly in this life or on judgment day. It’s better to confess it now and be forgiven by God than be caught later.
Don’t Think You are Above Temptation
There is something about our culture that loves to see powerful men fall into disgrace. It’s easy to shake our heads in disbelief and say to ourselves or others “I would never do that.” Without Christ being at the center of our hearts and minds, we are all prone to fall into temptation every moment of every day. Living a life above board and with accountability is essential. One glance at an inappropriate website when no one is around. Finding our eyes wandering at the gym. Taking money from a business deal when you know you won’t be caught. A mature man is the one who knows that he is not strong enough to resist temptation in isolation. No one is above temptation.
Character and Reputation Can Be Ruined in A Moment
Benjamin Franklin said, “It takes many good deeds to build a good reputation, and only one bad one to lose it.” We spend a lifetime developing a reputation. I don’t think there’s anything I try to protect more than my reputation. When my reputation is compromised—a hidden sin made public, a mistake made in business, I often find myself attacking the credibility of its critic and find something wrong with the source. I strongly defend myself. I live in a small city and work with small business owners. Word of mouth travels fast. Your reputation and character can significantly impact how you are able to exist in business and in life. We should all be reminded that no one cares about all the right things Matt Lauer or OJ Simpson did. He will be remembered for their indiscretions and their fall from greatness in an instant.
Bible Verse: “Nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light” (Luke 8:17).
About the Author: Sam Casey is the Managing Partner at Banyan Creative, based in Matthews NC.