Christmas Giving and Reconciliation

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Christmas is a time of joy, reflection, and, most importantly, an opportunity to express our love through thoughtful gift-giving and reconciling with those who matter most in our lives. This season, let’s dive deeper into the essence of Christmas giving and the spirit of reconciliation, transforming our holiday experiences into something truly memorable and heartfelt.

Thoughtful Gift-Giving: Beyond the Material

In a world where convenience often overshadows personalization, gift-giving can sometimes feel more transactional than heartfelt. In 2 Corinthians 9:7, “Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver,” encourages us to give cheerfully and thoughtfully. This Christmas, let’s bring back the heartfelt into our gift-giving. Gifts have the power to say, “I know you,” “I care about you,” and “You are valued.” It’s about understanding the person, their needs, their joys, and their struggles.

Emulating the Wise Men’s Thoughtfulness

The Wise Men who visited Jesus brought gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh, each with significant meaning. Their gifts were thoughtful, intentional, and fitting for a king. We can replicate this by really listening to our loved ones. What brings them joy? What are their hobbies? Is it something they wouldn’t buy for themselves? The answers to these questions can guide us to give gifts that truly resonate.

The Joy of Creating and Personalizing Gifts

Creating a gift, like a handcrafted item or a handwritten letter, can often hold more value than the most expensive gadget. It’s not about the price tag; it’s about the thought that counts. This season, let’s challenge ourselves to give more than just gifts; let’s share experiences, memories, and tokens of our affection that will be treasured long after the Christmas lights dim.

The Challenge of Reconciliation

About 40% of Americans report feeling anxious or stressed about family gatherings, especially during the holidays. This stress often stems from navigating complicated histories or past conflicts. Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone,” teaches us the importance of living at peace with everyone, emphasizing our personal responsibility to foster peace in our relationships.

Embracing the Spirit of Reconciliation

Family estrangement affects at least one in five Americans. Reconciliation, especially during Christmas, mirrors the essence of the season. Taking the first step toward reconciliation requires vulnerability, humility, and forgiveness. It’s about extending grace and understanding, acknowledging diverse personalities, and maintaining peace amidst differences. This holiday season, let’s embrace the spirit of reconciliation, setting realistic expectations and understanding that reconciliation might not always lead to immediate closeness but is a step toward healing.

The Power of Forgiveness and Humility

The story of the prodigal son in Luke 15:20, “So he got up and went to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him, and kissed him,” illustrates the power of forgiveness and the joy of reconciliation. This Christmas, let’s be the initiators of peace, reaching out to those with whom we have strained relationships. A simple message expressing a desire for a peaceful holiday or an offer to talk can open the door to healing and understanding.

The Heart of Christmas Giving and Reconciliation

This Christmas, let’s focus on giving gifts reflecting our love and attention and reconciling with those who matter in our lives. Let’s set aside the gift card mentality and embrace a more personal approach to our gift-giving. Let’s be the ones who give gifts that touch hearts and show our loved ones just how much they mean to us. It’s a chance to reflect the love of Christ, who gave the most thoughtful gift of all—His life for our salvation.

Uncommen Questions:

  • How can your Christmas gifts reflect your personal value and appreciation for the recipient?
  • In what ways can you make your gift-giving more meaningful and less transactional this Christmas?

Uncommen Challenge:

Select a person on your gift list and think about what would bring joy to their life. Instead of buying a generic gift card, choose or create a gift that speaks to your relationship with them. Additionally, reach out to a relative or friend with whom you have a strained relationship. Express your desire for a peaceful and enjoyable time during the holidays or offer to talk and clear any misunderstandings. Share your experiences of these acts of Christmas giving and reconciliation.

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  1. Scott Earl

    We are hosting Christmas for the family for the first time this year, as my in-laws, who usually host, have moved to Florida. Our niece has chosen an alternative lifestyle and was recently married to her significant other. Having them here will be an uncomfortable situation, but my wife and I have been praying about it and talking through it with each other. We will welcome them with love and compassion, just as Christ would have. Keep us in your prayers so that we might be the hands and heart of Christ to them.

    • Tj Todd

      Scott, we will be praying for a wonderful time with family. You may be the only Jesus your niece sees in her life, so be Jesus to her. We can love people without having to condone a lifestyle. Stay Uncommen


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