My daughter (15) is going through a tough time at school. She fancies a boy but is often at odds with him, and has moved friendship groups to be with the “cool girls.” She hasn’t entirely burned her bridges with her old friends, but it’s a trying time for her and us as she struggles with growing up!
Deuteronomy 6:5-7 — “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”
In Deuteronomy 6:5, it states to love God with all our heart, soul, and strength. Sadly my daughter does not always take that to heart. She has doubts – who doesn’t – but often refuses to show or admit the faith we’ve raised her in.
Talk With Your Children About God’s Love
I wish she could believe and understand how God can work in her life and ease her troubles. I try to talk to her about it, but she usually shuns my attempts. Of course, she hates us for interfering in her life. We’ve got to love and look after her (and her brother).
Deuteronomy 6:7 speaks to me right now, as I try and sit with her every night at bedtime and talk to her about her feelings, what’s happened, and how she can help herself and others. It’s usually a lovely time, as she does talk rationally and sensibly, which she rarely does during the day when she’s riled! It’s great that she does open up to me, and I’ve learned more during our bedtime chats than at any other time for years, probably.
Every Child Needs Something Different
I guess I’m lucky in that my other child, my younger son, is not going through these traumas. He’s a different beast entirely! He can be as riled and rude as my daughter, but I guess boys go about their friendships in a different way than girls. So far we’ve had no problems with him and his friends. Thank you, Lord!
I thank Him too that our daughter, for all her quirks, is a wonderful girl. She’s smart, intelligent, and generous to her friends. Not always to her parents, but if you don’t expect difficulty from a teenager, then you’re approaching parenting wrong!
I pray daily for my children, though it is difficult as troubles still occur without resolution. I hope that one day, they will appreciate my small efforts and come to know God’s love and gracefully be moved, inspired, and made safe by it.
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