Imperfect parents can still teach Godly truths. Father’s Day is a time to celebrate what our fathers mean to us. But not everyone had the kind of close relationship with their fathers they would have liked. For some, the day can trigger painful emotions and memories. Our earthly fathers are human. They are flawed. They can let us down, disappoint us, or even abandon or abuse us.
1 John 3:1 — “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.”
Our Parents Aren’t Perfect and Neither Are You
Like most boys growing up, I had idolized my father for his strength and knowledge. But in my preteen years, I watched my father slip into depression and alcohol dependence leading to him taking his life when I was thirteen. I felt abandoned when my dad left me fatherless.
Eventually, I became a father myself. I often worried when my daughter and two sons were young about my ability to be the father they needed since I had missed out on so much guidance from my father during those formative years. I was particularly concerned about guiding my two sons into manhood since I wasn’t entirely sure I knew what that meant.
I came to realize that much like our parents, we won’t be perfect parents either. Even if we commit our lives to God and strive to live a Christ-like life, we will still blow it sometimes. But that’s OK. We should acknowledge it when it happens and even apologize to our kids if we react poorly. Ultimately, their development is in God’s hands. He has a plan for them and can use us to make that come about despite our flawed human nature.
Teach Godly Truths to Your Children
The most important thing we can do to aid our children is to expose them to God’s Word and to see it lived out in our lives. We want to bring them up in the church, a community of believers who love God and want to love on our children and teach them God’s Word.
I realized it was those things that had been my saving grace. My mother had made sure we were in the house of the Lord every Sunday and that I was exposed to other godly men who could influence my life. Throughout everything, the loving Heavenly Father had His hand on my life and has used even the adverse events in my life to bring about my spiritual growth. (Rom. 8:28)
We have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves us unconditionally and will never leave us. God never left me. When I felt the most alone and despairing, he was the Father that I turned to during this time. He got me through the difficult times and provided the comfort and encouragement I needed.
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