If You Have An Unruly Heart, Repent

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Colossians 3:8 — “But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.”

For about five weeks now, I have been having a pity party. It hasn’t been one that people can notice, but in my heart, I have been whining like a two-year-old. My lip is sticking out, and I have been pouting. But at the same time, I have been blessed! Ever been there?

Actions Vs. Words | Unruly Hearts

But this morning, I went on a hike with my son. We walked through the woods in the quiet of the morning. Just us two and nature. He is 12 and will be 13 in July, so we were discussing that it is time that he starts acting like a young man instead of a boy. 

I was telling him that to do that; he needed to start getting control of his mouth and his emotions. I was telling him the older he got, the less he could act like a little boy throwing fits and letting his mouth run wild. (I have experience in this area). As he became more like a man, he had to get control of it. Then it dawned on me that I was preaching to myself.

You see, my actions weren’t evident to most people, but they were to God. God can see my heart, and my heart has been throwing some fits over the last few weeks. I have been mad in my heart, and God knew it.

What Paul Tells Us | Unruly Hearts

In Colossians, Paul is telling them to put aside their anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech. He isn’t just talking about the physical aspects of these things. He’s also talking about the heart of the matter as well.

So this morning, I told my heart to shut it up! I said to stop being angry, to prevent losing control, and to stop being hateful! I told it to grow up and to be a man, a godly man! 

Because Paul goes on a few verses later and tells us what our heart should indeed be… “12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a spirit of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.”

So if you have an unruly heart, take a moment and tell it to shut it up! Repent and let the Holy Spirit do a little heart surgery! It has already helped me!


Author: Pastor Jody of Man Up God’s Way.



  1. Randy Dunham

    Amen, I’ve been known to have pity parties myself until I realized how much I was missing out on my relationship with my wife.

  2. Donald Patterson

    Amen Brother, our world is living with a cold heart. Jesus tell us to love our brother as our self, in America it do not show. The heart of today is cold, it need heart surgery through Jesus Christ. Pray for America for a new heart

  3. Jod

    so that in Me you may have shalom (peace). In the world you will have trouble, but take heart! I have come to overcome the world!” (TLV) John 16: 33

    Nosh: Even as a submitted and committed believer in Yeshua, life is filled with trouble, tribulation and challenges both great and small. Yeshua says, the difference is that we are not on our own. He is our supernatural partner in overcoming those difficulties. When I reflect on my life, I am eternally grateful for this partnership. Frankly, I can’t imagine living and navigating my life without Him. He truly is the ultimate difference maker.

    • David Boyce

      Words of Our Creator’s Wisdom: “He will keep us in perfect peace who’s mind is stayed upon Him because we trust in Him”. King James Version says it this way: “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace who’s mind is stayed upon Him Thee because he trusteth I’m Thee”. The key is that when we keep our minds (heart) on Him, he lives out His righteousness through us. Remember that our righteousness is as filthy rags according to Our Savior. We can do nothing without Him, but Through Christ Jesus (Yahshua) we can do all things.

  4. Jason

    Amen brother!

  5. Everett Henry

    I have been having a pity party since me and my family are going through a transition. Even though it is a stressful time, I have to remember not to let the circumstances cloud my better judgment and take away my patience and peace.

  6. Jason

    Feeling so down right now ,me and my wife aren’t seeing eye to eye she says I have changed and I feel like she doesn’t listen anymore to my side . Not sure what to do ?

    • Jeff Gregory

      Praying for both you and your wife this morning! My bride of almost 19 years have had similar situations.
      Best advice would be ask God how can I be more like Him. Ask God that the closer your wife sees you; she will actually see more of God and less of the old nature You.

    • Tj Todd

      Jason, I would suggest the following steps to help reconnect with your wife.

      – Ask her out to dinner and tell her you are committed to your marriage and want to take steps to reconnect
      – Ask her to join you in doing a marriage study (pick out something that will help you communicate better like the 5 Love Languages)
      – Pray with each other daily
      – Pray for each other daily

      I challenge you both to read your bible daily. Reconnecting to God’s word together is the best way to adjust the perspective of your marriage.

      Please let us know how this goes and we’ll be praying for you both.

  7. olayiwola egbeyemi

    Thank you, Pst Jody, I have been a victim of the pity party and it’s affecting me badly at work since I wasn’t given the necessary rights and entitlements having worked for about 4 years, it has affected by relationship wth my superior sir. I constantly ask for forgiveness from God but at the end of the day, I tend up to have had a bad and worrisome day at work with the system put in place. thank you once again for your words of wisdom on this subject and I sincerely pray that there will be a change in my relationship with God and people.


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