For years in high school, I vowed that this would never be the case. If my dad turned left, I turned right. I felt like we had nothing in common. My days were spent focused on school, athletics, and girls. He spent his days working at his boring government job, and...
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Who You Are Becoming
When I was a boy, my father would often repeat the saying to me: “Choose your friends wisely. Because that’s who you will become.” In youth, we are often told that hanging out with the wrong crowd will get us in trouble. And on the flip side, we should seek out...
The Way Back is the Way Forward
For as long as I can remember, I have loved historical documentaries. At times it feels like I could get lost in the stories told by Ken Burns, or the books written by David McCullough. As a little boy growing up in Virginia, I went on field trips to old Civil War...
Class is in Session
We all remember that feeling: making our way through noisy school hallways. Sounds of yelling, laughter, footsteps, lockers slamming, feet shuffling, doors opening and closing. The announcements burst through the loudspeaker, the bells ring, the hallway clears, and we...
Uncommen Habits: Saying the Hard Thing
Have you ever felt deep down in your gut that you are supposed to say something hard to someone, and you aren’t sure how they are going to receive it? Maybe it’s a warning to a friend who is involved in some unhealthy habits. Maybe it's a coworker that’s out of line....
The Power of No
Imagine driving down a country road to your destination. The radio is on, and you are enjoying some fresh air until you notice the temperature gauge on the engine is rising slowly. Then the temperature warning light comes on, but you keep driving knowing you will take...
Fathers at Play
The results are in. According to a recent global study, roughhousing is critical to a child’s development. Maybe the best gift you can give to your young kids is to roughhouse with them a little bit more. Dr. Richard Fletcher is the leader of the Fathers and Families...
Repainting the Boat
Not too long ago, back when my wife and I lived in Massachusetts, we decided to take a sunset drive from Salem to Gloucester, Massachusetts. We had traveled this road many times before—a beautiful, twisting-and-turning road that hugged the rocky coast—and it was...
Men and Competition
We are a very competitive nation; from our sports, to our business, to our hunting activities, and even our politics, we compete in many facets. We find ways of measuring everything from the size of car engines to deer racks. America is one giant competitive engine in...
Honoring Your Father & Mother Isn’t Just for Kids
I spoke with a friend a few months ago over a beer, and he was talking about health issues his parents were having. His mom has been battling cancer since her early 70's, and his dad was at the beginning of stage Alzheimer's. I could tell he was burdened on what to...
Brothers and Envy
I long for deeper and closer friendships in my life, and I have been grateful for the men who have come into my world. But, often the same men I would want as a closer brother, I can struggle with deep envy of. I am both drawn to them and their gifts, yet at the same...
The Frivolity of Time is Stealing Your Manhood
“The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of 60 minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.” - C.S. Lewis I think I was about ten years old when I first saw Terminator. I lived out in the country and didn’t have access to whatever movie or show...