Husbands, we don’t have time to waste!

Over the course of the next few weeks in October you will be reading posts by my good buddy, Brian Goins, on What Does it Really Mean to be an UNCOMMEN Husband? All of these posts are excerpts from his book, Playing Hurt, which you should really check out.

Unfortunately, I sometimes treat my wife like many unread books in my library. I take it for granted that she’s there, and that I can always engage her on a deep level whenever I get around to it. It was just the other day she said to me, “we need to start having our weekly meetings again to plan our goals as a family.” She wasn’t nagging, she was reminding me of the very thing I said that I wanted do. Kinda like reading Brian’s book. I intended to do so, but I let other things take priority. It’s time to set some goals.

Here is how I plan on accomplishing the goal of setting a regular family business meeting with my wife:

  1. Plan Ahead, Then Set the Plan. My wife and I have set Monday evenings as the best time for us to have our meetings. I have also blocked out 15 min of planning before the meeting. Yes, that’s two calendar events, one to plan the meeting, and one for the meeting itself.
  2. Set Goals of Time and Topics. At the end of a work day, my comfort zone is 20-30 min tops.  As for topics, Lanier Inc has taken on what we call our Big 5 as our priorities for weekly discussions: Marriage, Parenting, House, Community, and Finances. 
  3. Shut Up and Listen. I may come into the meeting with an agenda, but once my wife gets involved, it’s all subject to change! That’s the way it should be. First questions after sharing my thoughts are, “What do you think?” and “What am I missing?” 

This is how we run the family business meeting.

As for reading the book, Playing Hurt, I have put it at the top of my list for discussion with my wife about our marriage. My plan is to share an excerpt from good stuff I’m reading as part of our Marriage discussions.  Next week, Wash, rinse, repeat. 

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